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November 22, 2018

You've likely heard someone tout the absolute necessity of married couples having a weekly date night. Dates nights are easy to slack off on, and many of us need help with a few alternatives to the DVD and popcorn route. Learn to focus your date night for fun and romance, and be inspired by some fresh ideas. 


If you have kids, date night means finding a babysitter. If you both work full-time, it means you both have to clear your schedules for that evening. Either way, highly prioritizing time for a fresh and fun date night is essential. DOWNLOAD YOUR 2019 PLANNER HERE!  

1) Whether you’ve been married five weeks, five years, or even five decades, date night is a ritual you should regularly observe.
2) We understand. This is hardly a news flash. Read any advice column about how to keep the spark alive in your marriage and you’ll find date night near the top of the list.
3) Yet, if you’re like most couples, you’ll read it, you’ll note it, and then you’ll ignore it.
4) A survey of readers found that 42 percent of couples “rarely” have date nights. A mere 19 percent said they manage to go out around once a month.

Date night is a luxury, they say. No, It’s an essential.

Not just for couples with young kids who need a night away from the hubbub, or newlywed couples, or those who are struggling. Date night is an essential because couples in all states and stages need quality one-on-one time.

While date night alone will not guarantee a satisfying marriage (nor will a weekly date pull a foundering marriage back from the brink), date night is an investment in the well-being of your relationship one way, among many, to nourish and care for your marriage.

When we see couples in trouble, we often wonder which came first, the growing estrangement in their relationship or the lack of effort put in to nurture it?

Our  philosophy: “A babysitter is much cheaper than a divorce lawyer, so make date night a priority." DOWNLOAD YOUR 2019 PLANNER HERE

It’s an Opportunity for Romance
There’s a big difference between going out for the evening and going out on a date. Date night is a night out with your sweetheart. It’s quick trip back to courtship, as opposed to an ordinary night out of the house.

Date night is a state of mind more than an activity. It’s about the meaning you make of your time together, whatever you do. Whether simple or elaborate, eating a sandwich in the park, taking a walk on the beach, going out to the symphony, seeing a movie or just having coffee. Date night says, oh, right, we’re a “couple” when too often it can seem that you’re simply business partners or roommates or two people running day care.

Date night is a chance to look across the table and see the person you married, the one you fell in love with, not the person who left the bed unmade or forgot to take out the trash.

Unless you’re going on a hike together or taking a yoga class, I suggest you dress up. This is a date, after all, a special occasion. Remember when you were first dating? Your favorite old t-shirt with the torn sleeve was not your first choice of attire.

It’s a Break From “Doing”
Simply put, date night is about connecting with each other, not about getting things done. Date night offers a needed break from the demands of everyday life. It’s a time to set aside your to-do list and focus on each other. To listen. To express affection. To feel close. While it’s important to have business meetings and difficult conversations, date night is not the time for that. Yes, some people say that time away from family or kids is hard to come by and you need to grab any opportunity you have. We say, set the hard work of marriage aside and take time to invest in the good.

To get the most out of date night: turn off your phones! Most of us appreciate having our loved one’s undivided attention.

It’s About Fun
Date night is an opportunity to have some fun together. Unless you find baskets of unfolded laundry to be an aphrodisiac or your idea of a sweet time together is catching up on your bills, plan something fun. While you’re at it, try something new. New experiences activate the brain’s reward system, flooding it with dopamine and norepinephrine, what we think of as “feel good” brain chemistry. These same brain circuits are the ones that “light up” in the early stages of romantic love.

Researchers believe that novelty plays a role in keeping the romantic spark alive. In an experiment with long-married couples, those who were instructed to do something unfamiliar and exciting rather than their usual date night fare showed a significant increase in marital satisfaction and feelings of love.

Not into skydiving? No need to worry. Try a new restaurant, go to the opera, or just turn on some music and dance. 

It’s a Show of Commitment
Date night shows a willingness to make the other person and your relationship a priority by setting aside special time.

When couples make the effort to spend time together and to continue developing their relationship, no matter what’s going on in their every day life, they are more likely to grow closer, rather than apart. Research has shown that those who have “couple time” at least weekly are 3.5 times more likely to report being “very happy” in their marriages, compared with those spending less alone time with their mates.

Remember: It’s not what you do, it’s the spirit you bring to it. Sometimes date night consisted of putting the kids to bed and then sitting in the back yard on lawn chairs watching for shooting stars.

If you're attending your date night like a business meeting, it's not really a date. This evening should be about fun, romance, friendship, growing closer together and no worries. Plan your dates.  A date night that is planned ahead of time makes you and your spouse feel honored and loved. Don’t leave strategizing till 5 p.m. on the night of. If your work week is busy, plan your date for the following week on the weekend.  

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