MARRIAGE IS LIKE A GARDEN
May 23, 2018
Marriage is like a garden! We need to ‘weed’ out all our negative thoughts, to pull them out by their roots and dump them in the garbage can. We need to add ‘fertilizer’ to our marriages , go on marriage courses, find a hobby or exercise that you do together as a couple. Ensure that your marriage is watered and given enough ‘sunshine’ in order for it to grow make time to spend exclusively with each other, plan surprises and treats for each other. All of this needs to be done on a regular basis.
Like plants, love needs water to grow.
Like soil, love needs the right nourishment to flourish.
Like flowers, love needs light to thrive.
A garden needs to be nurtured and looked after. Our marriages need the same thing.
The fences that we surround our marriages with need to be sturdy, strong and high enough to keep the ‘acid’ of the world out.
What we pay attention to in life grows and expands. The trick is to grow and expand the loving, good parts of our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Doing so ultimately feeds and fuels the goodness in our relationships and enriches our lives.
I like to remind myself in my darkest hours of relationship anxiety that everything in life follows a predictable pattern... including love. If I neglect my car, it will break down. If I only feed my body bad foods, I will get sick. If I stop watering my orchid, it will lose its lovely flowers. Predictable pattern. Love is no different. If I don’t feed and fuel my love by recognizing the good things about my partner and our dance, the darkness will grow like a virus and eventually kill what is in its path. So when the negative thoughts come up, I have to remember to ask myself, “Do I want to feed this love or starve it?” It is up to me.
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