3 Ways to love & nurture your relationship with your elderly parents
June 05, 2019
Growing up, it’s hard to imagine that a time will come when we will have to look out for our parents. As kids, the adults in our lives seem so strong and vital that you can barely imagine a situation in which you will be called upon to make the grownup decisions. However, as time passes and we watch our parents growing older and more frail, the realisation that we will have to take charge at some point becomes unavoidable.
If you are lucky enough to have parents that live beyond the 70-year-old mark, you will notice that your relationship changes as they become more dependant on you. This calls for some empathy and finesse if you wish to keep things on an even keel.
Here are a few tips on loving and nurturing your relationship with your elderly parents:
Take time to do the things they love
Just because a parent is a little less mobile than they used to be doesn’t mean you have to sit around drinking tea and playing Canasta all day long. If your parent is an art lover, for instance, take them to exhibitions, download art films and keep an eye out for plays in your vicinity. Most theatres offer a pensioner’s discount in the afternoon, which is a great way to save some money. Or perhaps you’ve got a foodie on your hands? Go shopping for interesting ingredients, introduce them to UCOOK, and help them to throw dinner parties for their friends. Keep things fun and interesting rather than assuming they’re going to gear all the way down.
Make sure their finances are sorted
Taking control of a parent’s finances can be daunting, but it’s very important that you know what’s going on so you can help them to safeguard their livelihood. Have an open and frank discussion about their financial situation; if need be you can get a financial advisor involved, or sit in on a meeting with their existing advisor if they have one.
DID YOU KNOW? It is possible for your parent/s to take out life insurance on their own life and for you to pay the monthly premiums. Insurers like MiWayLife offer this option, which allows you to foot the bill on a monthly basis, so you may have access to some extra funds when your parent/s pass on to cover funeral costs, settle debts, etc. This is good option for families in which elderly parents are not entirely financially stable.
Help them to embrace technology
If at all possible, it makes a world of difference if you can keep your parents current on developing tech. Even if all you can manage is to get them proficient on WhatsApp and FaceTime, they will already be far more connected with their friends, peers and family than they would otherwise. It’s a fun and simple way to send pictures, enjoy conversation and keep them in the loop.
These are just three of the ways in which you can love and nurture your relationship with your elderly parents. Keep an eye on the blog in coming weeks and months as we share more insight into on love, life and relationships. In the meantime, feel free to get in touch with a MiWayLife
representative if you would like to learn more about their life insurance offering.
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